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I’ve gained 5 lbs in one week. Surprising right? Well not as bad as the fact that I asked Master to be my conscience and I never listened to him. He’d ask me if I really needed to eat something and I’d just go ahead and do it. It’s my own darn fault and like [...]

Saying no. This is a difficult essay for me. I assume you wanted me to write about when I say no to sexual things. A lot of the time when I say no, it has reason behind it. The rest of the time, I realize it is excuses. How I feel about saying no is [...]

If you have been reading my blog you know that I’ve been working on revising my parent site, The Iron Gate. Well, the wait is over! I have debuted the site and hope that everyone will come on over and take a look at the new design, new method and the ease of adding your [...]

In previous posts I’ve talked about the speech training that Master has me learning. He’s finally come closer to what he wants me to do, and I’ve been practicing it as much as possible.
It’s been a hard trip, but I’ve slowly been changing how I say things to make it more like seeking permission instead [...]

danae asks: Name a couple guilty pleasures?
Chocolate Milk and Friday afternoon naps
Is there something you had before your life with your Sir that you don’t now but that you miss?
Yeah, I miss fast food. I have such huge cravings for Big Macs and shakes sometimes that it takes all my willpower to not get into [...]

Mara asks, What are the things you always do for Master? (again, i.e. with me, I always go barefooted around the house, and always wear my toe rings and anklet)
I always wear my collar. It only comes off to be cleaned. I always get out of my work clothes as soon as I enter the [...]

We’ve been planning to evolve the current munch group into a better more community friendly group lately and with that comes a lot of brainstorming sessions, a lot of work and writing and planning, policy work, topic ideas and dreams of being able to do it all and succeed. The current group as it stands [...]

I’ve been developing a submissive code of ethics for myself to help give me long term goals and a focus. I feel it will bring about change in me that perhaps I can’t see yet. As I develop each one listed below I will get more detailed as to how they help me in my [...]

I’m going to ShibariCon, I’m going to ShibariCon! Yes, I know I’ve posted before about going, but this time it’s official; I’ve paid the registration, Master has already been registered for a month, the hotel reservation has been made and all we need to do is save our pennies so that we can afford it [...]

I’ve read a very good quote from an owner of a submissive who’s blog I read regularly. Kinky Little Girl was talking about punishment and how she let’s it continue to get to her after it’s over.
One of the earliest pieces of advice he ever gave me was, “Being a better submissive means learning to [...]

Master would like to use my ass whenever he wants. He also has a plan to have me wear butt plugs on a regular basis to remind me of my place and prepare me for more frequent anal sex and play. A butt plug will allow me to relax better, faster, easier when he wishes [...]

Well, so no one commented on the Thursday Question this week about when you came out as kinky… does that mean no one is out? to anyone? No one wants to admit that they aren’t or are? Hmmm….
I’m out as kinky to all of my friends, half of my family and select few at work.
As [...]

It feels good to see Master getting his thoughts sorted out and that he has honored me by posting here. I’m so proud that he has claimed me and is helping me become who I’ve always wanted to be; comfortable in myself.
My exercise routine has just started but knowing that if I don’t exercise everyday [...]

It never seems to work. I try to compartmentalize my diet and health changes and that blog just sits idle. I guess I really can’t keep more than one blog. It’s all me so why do I have to try to separate it. I guess I was just trying to sort out the boring stuff [...]

As a part of my Physical Appearance, I need to start working on my personal grooming habits, pick up more care in what I do and hopefully do some things at home that would normally cost at a spa. I’d like to pick up a routine for at-home waxing, makeup application tips, manicures and pedicures [...]

There are several aspects of appearance that I need to be aware of for Master. These are physical appearance, dress and health. Within each of these requirements I need to do certain things to appease him. I am fighting with the way I was raised, and they laziness I fell into when I got married. [...]

Yes, I’ve brought up this debate here before and I’ve read it in a hundred places too. Your blogs out there are teeming with it on occasion. Is the desire to be submissive natural or is it part of the way you were brought up? Especially when there was abuse involved. Those internal radars go [...]

You all know the old adage “If you play with fire you’re going to get burned”. Well, as it turns out, this is entirely true.
For all of you who may be freaking out right now, no, I didn’t burn luna. I recently put all of my toy collection away in a nice bag and toolbox [...]

I’ve been sick the past few days, some sort of stomach bug I can’t complain. It came on all of a sudden on Tuesday and I’ve had that icky feeling the past few days. I’m going to have to go to work tomorrow because I just can’t miss another day. I’ll feel so far behind.
I [...]

Tonight I am coloring my hair; at this very moment the creme is changing my hair from a dark brown to something auburn-ish. I haven’t colored my hair in over 4 years. I always had the perception that Master would want it natural. The fact that he went and helped me pick it out was [...]